Rings
 Chances are that if you're ready to start shopping for your first wedding
rings, it could be your first encounter with fine jewelry. In this article,
we'll attempt to clue you in to a few simple steps to follow to help you ensure
that you'll choose a symbol of your love forever that you'll love forever and
will last forever.
When you begin your quest for jewelry to represent your love and commitment,
it is probably best to shop together. The romantic noion of a "down on
bended knee" proposal with an engagement ring at the ready, hidden in
a jacket pocket, is an outdated one and one that can lead to problems (suppose
she says, "No!"). Nowadays, the long-term commitment of marriage
and the complex arrangements for a wedding are usually discussed for months
or even years before setting the date. Shopping together, therefore, makes
utmost sense and will ensure that your rings will not only suit both of your
tastes in jewelry, but that costs can be discussed in advance and budgeted
into your long-term financial planning. What would be the point in buying a
ring your fiance doesn't like and that you can't afford if you'll still be
paying for it after the wedding?
(As for those romantic "on bended knee" proposals - if you really
want to go for it, the operative phrase would be "window shop"! Make
sure you're in general agreement as to style, price and the betrothal itself
before you make a purchase. Consult with your fiance's friends, mother, sisters,
etc. to double-check your conclusions.)
WHERE TO BUY
Far and away, your best choice is to engage the services of a local jeweler
or precious metals/gemstone dealer who has been in business for a long time
who will provide references and a history. This specialist is ready to answer
even your most difficult questions and provide years or even decades of experience
and anecdotal information concerning engagement and wedding rings.
Discount houses and the fine jewelry departments of department stores are also
an option, especially if financial considerations are a factor. You can save
money, get good value, and save time by buying "off the rack", however,
you'll be giving up personalized service and extensive experience in many instances.
No matter where you wind up buying, all licensed dealers will be able to provide
you with documentation concerning the origin, quality and value of your purchases.
As long as this information is provided, you'll be on solid ground.
ENGAGEMENT RINGS
They still say that "diamonds are a girl's best friend", and although
many couples are choosing other stones for betrothal symbols, the diamond is
still far and away the most popoular gem and your best investment.
The simple rule to follow when shopping for a diamond is to consider the "Four
C's": Cut, Clarity, Color and Carat.
CUT
Cut refers to the shape into which the stone has been fashioned. Although many
shapes are available, such as emerald (square/oblong), oval, teardrop and marquise,
the most popular cut is the simple round shape or "brilliant" cut.
This allows for the most surface or "crown" to highlight the brilliance
of your stone.
CLARITY
Clarity refers to flaws on or within the stone such as scratches, bubbles or
cracks. The flawless diamand is one which has no visible flaws and indicates
a higher quality of stone and cut.
COLOR
Color refers to the deepness of the stone's basic coloring: the reddest of
rubies, the deep green of fine emeralds, the bluest aquas. The diamond, however,
is judged by the ABSENCE of color; the clearer the stone, the greater the value
(cloudiness or hints of color detract from the beauty - and value - of the
stone).
CARAT
Lastly, carat is probably the major consideration. Carat refers to the size
of the stone. However, bigger is not always necessarily better. For example:
A huge 2 CARAT diamond formed into an unpopular shape or CUT, with many bubbles
or poor CLARITY and a bluish tint or COLOR, is not a good buy. A simple 1/2
Carat stone with flawless clarity, no color and the popular round cut is a
much more desirable and attractive gem.
Remember, however, that any stone is perfectly acceptable as an engagement
token and your personal tastes always take precedence over current or traditional
style. All of the birthstones and other gems are commonly used for engagement
rings, especially rubies and emeralds, and even the pearl (the traditional
token in Eastern cultures like Japan) is making inroads into the U.S. market
as the engagement ring of choice.
Gold is still the precious metal of choice for engagement ring bands and settings,
but other metals are in common use, especially Platinum and Silver. Again,
a personal choice. For the ring itself, follow the simple guidelines below
in the wedding band section while shopping.
Shop together - at least at the beginning - and stay within your budget. Choose
carefully with quality first in mind. Because, after all, there's one old saying
that absolutely no one can deny is still the truth: Diamonds Are Forever!
 WEDDING BANDS
Your wedding bands are the most personal choice you'll have to make when selecting
your marriage tokens. It is certainly the norm for couples to select matching
wedding rings, but it is by no means out of the question to select separate
bands, each reflecting the presonal tastes of the wearer, but still symbolizing
your togetherness.
Silver and platinum have both made significant inroads into the wedding ring
market in recent years (and are encouraged as a personal - if somewhat "bold" -
choice), but gold is still far and away the norm as the precious metal of choice
for wedding bands. But there are a couple of other trends which have gained
much ground in the late 1990s. One is colored gold such as "white" and "pink" gold
(gold which has trace amounts of other minerals which tint or even "dye" the
basic gold color without affecting its lustre or other "gold" characteristics.
(It is interesting to note that colored gold - particularly pink gold - was
extremely popular at the last turn of the century and into the early 20th century!)
The other is the two-tone ring (intertwined gold of different colors or even
two different colored metals). And finally, "gem-intensive" wedding
bands are beginning to come into favor. With more relaxed attitudes toward
such considerations as mixing stones (say, an emerald engagement ring and a
diamond encrusted wedding band), men wearing jewels, the possibility of non-matching
bands (jewels for the bride, metal only for the groom, or - dare we say it,
vice-versa!), and the possibility of skipping the purchase of an engagement
ring (for financial or other considerations) makes saving your gem purchase
(or purchases) for and extra-special wedding ring (or rings) a very real option
today.
When shopping for your rings, you will be considering a different type of "Carrot" -
KARAT, with a "K". Karat refers to the percentage of precious metal
contained in an alloyed or combined metal. But, this certainly does not mean
that the less gold or silver contained in your rings is reflection of their
quality or value. On the contrary! Precious metals, particularly gold, are
very soft and could wear out and/or break alomst immediately. The addition
of other metals into your ring will ensure that the band will retain its shape
and will be easy to re-size or repair, and will shine on forever!
A good medium - price wise and for durability - is fourteen karat gold (14K).
This is a ring for a lifetime; one you can wear for fifty years or more. Why
do you think they call it a "Golden Anniversary"?
PRICES FOR PRECIOUS METALS AND GEMSTONES
Although the gold market (and other precious metal figures) varies widely,
a good, solid set of wedding rings can always be found in the 14K range at
a reasonable price. A little shopping, some careful planning and, perhaps,
a financing plan from your bank or the jewelry outlet itself will guarantee
you an easy way to own the rings you really wnat.For diamonds, the rule of
thumb for the late millenium is approximately (according to recent Diamond
Information Center figures) two month's salary as a good amount when considering
just how much you should spend on your engagement ring. For example, if you're
making $24,000 per year, or $2000 per month, a $4000 engagement ring would
be in order. In this price range, a really nice 1 Carat or larger diamond should
be obtainable.
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